Hyper-Hospitality, Flagstaff

Hey friendykins!

A thought occurs: How often is it that two people find themselves eager to join in a relationship with each other?
From my observations, the whole “courting” process seems to be so up-and-down. More often than not, it’s only one person that’s head-over heels, while the other remains uninterested. And how precious can that connection be if the uninterested person is coerced by tricks and jealousy, rather than by affection?
I find myself, not that it’s important to many of you, fighting the use of these alternative methods, in search of…I don’t know what.
But while I’ve been here in Flagstaff I’ve had the unique opportunity to observe the college lifestyle from a detached perspective. While much of my findings have been in line with thoughts from my last post, a few others have been the source and seed of this post.

So without elaborating or clarifying further my points, I impose upon you all two questions, and feel free add YOUR thoughts at the bottom here as comments –

1. Do you know when to say no? …when to decide something or someone isn’t worth your time or efforts, and move on?

2. If you could describe yourself in 4 words, what would they be? And if you could do the same with your IDEAL self, would they be the same?

Yes, I understand they are both two-ish part questions and they touch on deeper issues, but I feel I must be ever-changing, learning, and growing, and I wouldn’t mind some help :)

So thanks to all of those who hosted me, and it was fantastically magical catching up with all of you chamazing people!! Special spanks to Kristen (and her roommates), Natalia (and her roommate), Munkie & JD (& Sarah)!

Chitty chitty bom bom!
Patsy McPatsykins

One thought on “Hyper-Hospitality, Flagstaff

  1. Jacalack

    Personally, I think when a relationship begins due to “tricks and jealousy”, it is probably not a very good indication as to the success of the relationship in the future. Ideally, you want to be in a relationship with someone who wants to be in a relationship with you too. I feel like people resort to tactics like that because they want to find someone, but a good fit is nowhere to be found, so they try to make it work with whoever is around. I also think that trickery and jealousy are a result of insecurity and a successful relationship should have a sense of security to be stable.

    Similarly, when it comes to the end of a relationship, I feel like if it comes to the point when someone doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you anymore and has completely stopped trying to make it work, that’s when it’s over. There’s no sense in begging and pleading because honestly, do you really want to have to persuade someone that they want be with you?? You can’t carry an entire relationship by yourself.

    I guess these two things are my answer to your first question. If someone doesn’t want to be with me, at the end of the day I don’t actually want to be with them either no matter what I might think I feel at the time.

    As for your second question, I’d like to think that the 4 words for both versions of myself would be similar, but I know I am nowhere close to perfect/ideal. One of the most important things to me isn’t that I am always a perfect person, but that I consciously try to be the best person I can be. I know I will fall short of that, but I feel good about myself as long as I know I’m trying.

    I know this is a very, very long comment….but I’ve spent a lot of time over the past few years thinking about these very topics, haha. You just happened to touch on a couple things that are actually pretty important to me. If you would ever like to discuss them with me, I am always willing (and eager!) :)